Have you ever thought how cool it would be to step out on the runway, learn that instrument, or start that YouTube Channel?  I am convinced every single person has at least one thing that they have interest of pursuing, but something always seems to get in the way of actually doing it…

I’m totally guilty of making excuses for reasons I haven’t tried something I’ve always wanted to. Some of my favorite excuses are:

  • “I don’t have time/I’m busy”
  • “I don’t have X amount of money”
  • “I don’t live in a bigger city”
  • “I don’t look like ____”

We can rattle off any excuse we want, BUT at the end of the day…all of these excuses all stem from one root source:

F E A R .

So, where is this fear coming from?? And, the bigger question: How can we stop it from getting in the way?

1. The Past

Most of us have vivid memories of the moments when we’ve failed in the past. I personally have just a couple myself:

So, I’ve clearly failed at PLENTY of things.😅And, the reason why I’m super open about them and don’t care is because they bare no relevance on my current life. Now, this isn’t to say that some of these failures didn’t completely break me when they actually occurred, but I’ve since learned that the cycle of failing, learning, and beginning again with more information were NECESSARY in guiding me into the direction of fruition. Funny thing is, many of these same failures you see listed above graduated and went on to become successes. 💪

No matter how much failure can define a moment in time, they can never define YOU as a complete person.

Ya hear that, exploding cupcakes?🌋

The Present

We live in a very judgmental world. I’ve heard so many of our agency talent and students talk about how AFRAID they are about putting themselves out there because of fear of judgment from their peers. And trust me, this isn’t something that necessarily goes away with age or experience. People are mean, and even meaner when they can hide behind a keyboard and a screen. Two things you should realize about mean people and judgmental people:

#1. They have more fear and insecurity than those who put themselves (or their work) out there.

#2. People who exude negative energy possess it within themselves, which makes them unhappy. (Probably because of #1.)

Fear of judgment actually goes away the moment you realize that your opinion of YOURSELF matters more than the ones judging you. It goes away when you realize that you are creating something, and they are not. The fear of judgment stays away when you make the conscious decision to decide that the only rubric you need to adhere to is one that YOU write, based on your OWN values, perceptions, and goals.

The Future

It’s like there’s a pattern here or something. Hear me out.🧐

The future, by definition, IS  uncertainty. While we can set ourselves up for success, we can not choreograph every micro detail of our future. We don’t know how every action we make is going to play out, and so fear comes from the unknown. Now think of it this way…

Because we DON’T KNOW in full detail what will happen, we are NOT GUARANTEED or ENTITLED TO ANYTHING…

Not even TOMORROW.

It’s not about making fear ‘go away’. It’s about ‘keeping it at bay’, and realizing you have a limited amount of time on this earth to determine whether or not you will control your fears and conquer, or allow your fears to control you and never step forward.

💄Now go put your lipstick on and go do ALL THE THINGS.

Hey you, what have YOU failed at? What did it teach you? And, how are you BETTER now because of it? I’d love to hear your story!

Also, comment a🌋 on my last post on Instagram, and I’ll be sure to follow you back🙃

Click Here for all of my upcoming shows with my band, Down 2 Dance!

Upcoming Featured Performances:

”Two level, hip-hopera, fashion event!”
Sunday, August 12th! Tickets on sale now

Special performances by violinist Alida LaCosse (HoneyNoir), Opera singer Cynthia Starich, Rapper Alexis Lex Dean, & More!!

Fashion presentations by:
Moda Muñeca
Anna Beth Gawarecki
Rochelle Evans Clair
Vast Roses
LeeVan D Roundtree
Tony Prince Carter
Basia Spencer
Sasha Walton
Trice Chanelle

Or should I say, co-lead singer! A true highlight of my week is band practice with my Down 2 Dance fam. Ever since I was a little kid I dreamed of being a singer in a band, and when that dream never stopped nagging, (even after obtaining a B.A. in classical vocal performance) I knew it was time to actually give this whole rock band thing a try. I am so glad I listened to that small voice in my head that said, “Go ahead, just try it!” instead of never allowing the opportunity to manifest in fear of judgement or ridicule (Especially from the Opera/classical world!!) If there is something you have been thinking about trying but have been putting it off, do it now. It’s amazing how a subtle interest can blossom into a passion!! Never be afraid to explore new avenues…

Four Guys…plus me!                      

Our band, Down 2 Dance, started by our other lead singer, Nick Montag. Being a Top 40 Pop/Dance cover band, we get to play all our favorite songs of the 2000’s, always including super recent songs in our set list. My favorite thing about this band–even more than the music–are the other guys!! They are all so truly talented and each have their own unique style. Nick, our other lead singer, is incredibly fashionable and equally charming. Our guitarist, Thomas, is not only capable of completely shredding on guitar, but he is also a savvy computer engineer and music producer. Steve is freaking hilarious, and his drumming is pure sorcery–you just have to see it! Our new bassist, Josh, is super chill, talented, and can carve out a baseline to 40 songs in just over a week! (Just ask him at the next show!)

I’ll never forget my first show this past March at Bub’s Irish Pub in Germantown. We had such an amazing turn out, and the energy from the crowd was so inspiring! I couldn’t believe how into it the crowd was–singing every word, dancing, drunkenly crashing into each other and spilling drinks to Kesha’s “Tick Tock”…it was invigorating. I looked out into the crowd and back to the guys on stage and thought…YUP…this is exactly where I want to be!

With each show we do and every venue we book, we make all kinds of memories together. We have so much fun at every show that at the end of the night I’m still surprised when I get handed money…oh yeah, I get paid to do this?!! It is so fun and we all have such a great time, but that doesn’t take away from the responsibilities we each have being a member of Down 2 Dance.

Not all rock stars and guitars

Being in a band is a lot of work and requires a lot of commitment. Aside from memorizing 4 hours worth of pop music, it takes time to set up all of the equipment, adjust the sound according to the space of the venue, work with the lights, sound check, break down and load up everything at the end of the night… it can get exhausting. Honestly, with all of the joy it has brought into my life, and for all the people it has brought together, it is beyond worth it. I’m sure the guys  would agree, or at least be able to say,  “THAT’S WHAT SHE SAID!!”

Be sure to follow us on Instagram @down2dancemke. (Our Insta stories are hilarious!) Also, check out our website and complete list of upcoming shows at